Restarting and introduction

So my first blog post was at 21 weeks, I am now 22 and 1 day and I think looking at it now, I really overthought what I was writing. I meant a lot of it and it was cathartic to go through the discovery of my tiny human because I haven’t really processed it until now. That said, I want this blog to be a place of discovery and thought, but also a place where if anyone does read it, people can see what life as a student with a baby is like.

I am blessed to have the support of my wonderful parents, and am genuinely so lucky to have my husband be the man he is. While my parents won’t mind too much if I write about them, I will be more vague about my husband, because he likes to keep a low profile on the internet and I respect that.

Anyway, I want to use this as a place to share my reality, so here goes…

My baby is a boy!👦

We found a few days ago and it was super exciting. I have been too busy to write until now but am finally doing it…

My husband was visiting uni for the weekend (we do live apart because I am a student and he works) so I booked us a gender scan to find out. It was the first scan he has been able to come to and honestly the trip was worth it just to watch him watch our baby… he is going to be such an amazing dad.
The lady at the clinic also showed us a 4D scan and he is convinced that baby boy does not have my nose – something he has pointed out is in fact a blessing because I have a large nose. Still, the look on his face as he saw the baby move inside me is a memory I will cherish forever.

It’s odd actually, I had felt for a few weeks before finding out that baby was a boy…my housemate
Danielle and I both had a joke about it as I was getting bigger… but now that I know, I can’t quite get used to referring to the bump as “he”. I suppose when we pick a name it’ll get easier but we are still a bit stuck on that.

Student Life…

Being a student last year was fantastic in a lot of ways, and also sucked in a lot of ways. I did really well in lessons and assignments but I didn’t really do much else. Danielle and I had a lot of movie nights, and I watched a lot of telly… Basically I did not live the ‘student life’ people always rave about: I didn’t want to.

This year, I was determined to change that so I set up a yoga society (I’ll do a post about yoga soon!) and I joined the Southampton University Royal Navy Unit (SURNU) as well. I was (and am technically) treasure for the Photography society and a course rep. In other words, I wanted to have a social life but I made sure that it was still revolving around things I liked and would not necessarily involve large amounts of alcohol.

My social life has been better… and even though I found out I was pregnant in November, I am still part of SURNU – an associate member, and I teach yoga between 1 and 3 times a week. As a society we do a quiz at the union every week or couple of weeks and I have made a lot of really good friends through the society so it’s been a real blessing to have. The only thing that has suffered is photography because I initially had a lesson that clashed with it and after that I was too tired to go out after a long day so I have been a pretty terrible committee member for them.

Uni-wise, I am a solid 2.1 student and I do work hard, but I also procrastinate and sometimes the idea of a 2000 word essay makes me want to curl up and quit… t’s not the most fun time but little kicks and flutters remind me that I am studying for a reason. In the end, when my baby and I cross the finish line and graduate (yes, he will graduate too – he knows lots about my course because I study by reading aloud), it will definitely be worth it.

I don’t think being pregnant has (yet) impacted my life regarding my course directly… sure there were lectures at the start where I had to leave to throw up my breakfast and others I have missed for scan appointments or just sheer exhaustion but I still show up, I do my work and I am trying. My social life would probably be a bit more exotic if I was not carrying the bump around but I don’t mind it really so I haven’t lost out… Next year will be the big test so we’ll see.

I don’t have much else to say at the moment so I will awkwardly sign off… I’ll write soon 🙂